night out
All 5 of my housemates and I went out for dinner tonight. It was so awesome. We had a ton of fun, great food and got to catch up. I really lucked out with the girls I moved in with. They could have been crazy, theives, bitches and just generally horrible people. But they're not. They all have stories and lives and really good personalities. Interestingly though, I am the only housemate not in a relationship right now.
However, one of my housemates - actually the one who is the reason I moved in - told me she broke up with her boyfriend this weekend. I was so busy with being sick and travelling and Aly that I didnt even know the house gossip yet. Its tragic actually. I really liked her boyfriend - he was so polite, always introducing himself and saying "excuse me" and "thank you" and "may I" and he seemed so sweet. and i know she reallllllly liked him. They were together for 2 years. 2 YEARS. And he cheated on her. I can hardly believe it myself, I cant even imagine how she feels.
I can't say I know what I'd do if I was in the same situation. He is a good guy. I have this feeling about him that makes me want her to give him a second chance. But he cheated. you just cant come back from that, no matter how great of a person u are. There are so many things men can do to women, so many ways that women can be hurt very easily. but being cheated on by an awesome guy who u really loved - thats the worst. even physical violence doesnt cause more pain. Honestly, I would prefer my boyfriend to raise a hand to me and let me break up with him over that than to tell me he cheated.
Here's why: every girl knows this is true - once you've been cheated on you are never the same in a relationship. You always want to know what time he gets home on a saturday night, always want to look through his phone, always want to check the details in his story. It breaks our sense of trust. But if u hit me, I know theres just something wrong with u and I would never, ever go back to a wife beater. So I feel much more confident in choosing to break up with a beater than a cheater. Of course I cant say I would put up with either, but faced with losing a man that I truly loved and wanted to be with, I can say I would much more easily walk away from a beater.
However, one of my housemates - actually the one who is the reason I moved in - told me she broke up with her boyfriend this weekend. I was so busy with being sick and travelling and Aly that I didnt even know the house gossip yet. Its tragic actually. I really liked her boyfriend - he was so polite, always introducing himself and saying "excuse me" and "thank you" and "may I" and he seemed so sweet. and i know she reallllllly liked him. They were together for 2 years. 2 YEARS. And he cheated on her. I can hardly believe it myself, I cant even imagine how she feels.
I can't say I know what I'd do if I was in the same situation. He is a good guy. I have this feeling about him that makes me want her to give him a second chance. But he cheated. you just cant come back from that, no matter how great of a person u are. There are so many things men can do to women, so many ways that women can be hurt very easily. but being cheated on by an awesome guy who u really loved - thats the worst. even physical violence doesnt cause more pain. Honestly, I would prefer my boyfriend to raise a hand to me and let me break up with him over that than to tell me he cheated.
Here's why: every girl knows this is true - once you've been cheated on you are never the same in a relationship. You always want to know what time he gets home on a saturday night, always want to look through his phone, always want to check the details in his story. It breaks our sense of trust. But if u hit me, I know theres just something wrong with u and I would never, ever go back to a wife beater. So I feel much more confident in choosing to break up with a beater than a cheater. Of course I cant say I would put up with either, but faced with losing a man that I truly loved and wanted to be with, I can say I would much more easily walk away from a beater.
Choosing the lesser of two evils never really can help...
And the cheating aspect is the same guy or girl...
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